Abstinence In The Teen Community With Raeven Goodman
Presidential Styles sat down with an amazing young lady by the name of Raeven Goodman to talk about her organization B.A.I.C. (Believing Abstinence Is Cool). She is a smart and ambitious young woman who is trying to make a difference in her community by letting other teens know sex can wait. How long have you been apart of your organization?
RG: I started B.A.I.C. (Believing Abstinence Is Cool) in July of 2012, so I will be approaching my two year anniversary soon.
PS: What made you decide to start a non- profit organization?
RG: Well for one, I myself believe and practice abstinence and realize that there are other youth who do the same. And because I have always had a passion for helping and encouraging others, I felt I could also use B.A.I.C. as an avenue to do that as well. I believe if many in my generation spent as much time on our education as we do on social media and impressing others, we could accomplish so many great things. Abstinence or being a virgin is not so popular in our society amongst my generation. It’s certainly not the popular ‘topic’ of conversation therefore, I felt as though I could make it a conversation piece by reaching out to my peers from a personal level. I want to let them know that being abstinent is nothing to be ashamed of and that we don’t have to succumb to peer pressure. I have always dared to be different and wanted to do positive things for my generation and for the next generation to follow. It’s not just being abstinent from sex, but from drugs, alcohol, and anything negative that may hinder your dreams.PS: What are some of the challenges you’ve had to deal with?
RG: Being rejected and fed with negativity. Not being understood, but judged by my peers and some adults from what they assumed about me before actually getting to know me. Dealing with that, makes it even more challenging to reach my peers effectively.PS: What are some of the best experiences you’ve had with the organization?
RG: I would have to say it has given me an opportunity to meet new people and network with so many positive individuals that have pushed me to keep moving forward. Another good experience for me is being told “no” or “you want to let them know that being abstinent is nothing to be ashamed of and that we don’t have to succumb to peer pressure. I have always dared to be different and wanted to do positive things for my generation and for the next generation to follow. It’s not just being abstinent from sex, but from drugs, alcohol, and anything negative that may hinder your dreams.PS: What are some of the challenges you’ve had to deal with?
RG: Being rejected and fed with negativity. Not being understood, but judged by can’t do that”. That is my biggest motivator because it makes me want to prove something to the ‘naysayers.’PS: What projects/initiatives do you have coming up that you want to let our readers know about?
RG: I am in the process of writing a book about my life as a misunderstood teen, feeling rejected by my dad, and all the challenges and things I have and continue to go through each day that have made me want to give up at times. I will also speaking at Women’s Conference at my church.
PS: Any advice you would like to give those interested in entering or just getting starting in this industry?
RG: In any industry one might be interested in getting started, I believe it is so important to find your passion and stick to it. Don’t procrastinate, be original, and never let others’ opinions or negative views of you kill your dreams. Perception is everything but; how you perceive yourself is even more important and don’t let the bad situations you go through allow you to think that nothing good will ever happen, because it will. Your thoughts are powerful and one of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 23:7, “whatsoever a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” So always be careful and mindful of how you think.PS: Tell us about your style, how you express your sense of style professionally.
RG: I think that I have somewhat of a unique style. I like to have fun with what I chose to wear, while still keeping things in perspective. Often times, I change my look by trying different hairstyles and enjoy setting trends through my fashion sense. Professionally, it is important to me to carry myself respectfully, and classy because you never know who you might meet or run into. I am a teenager, but I do know there is a time to be a teen and a time to portray a professional image in a business setting.PS: How can our readers keep up to date with you and all that you have going on? Social media handles?
RG: On Facebook type in (BAIC), twitter @baicingsuccess, and subscribe to my YouTube channel ‘BAIC.’PS: What inspires you to go to a particular project? Where does your creativity come from?
When I see projects that someone else has done that I find interesting, I don’t necessarily model after it, but I study it and think about how I can be creative and put my own spin on an idea to make it appealing to any audience. I look at some projects and think, how could I have done that differently to make it stand out. PS: Is there anyone that inspired you or motivated you to become the success that you are today?
My mom is my biggest inspiration. I have watched her struggle to make sure I have everything I need and want. She has and continues to make so many sacrifices for me and I don’t take that lightly. She pushes me daily to reach for the moon and never settle to be average but exceptional. She taught me to always be respectful as well as the importance of having good character. She knows my potential and is my number one supporter. Even with school she motivates me to make good grades. If I make a ‘B’ on anything, she will say to me, “a ‘B’ is good if you know you did your very best, but in the back of your mind you should always ask yourself, why I didn’t make an ‘A’?” So now anytime I don’t make an ‘A,’ I ask myself that question. It steers me right back to never settling. I can depend on her to be honest with me under any circumstance, even when I don’t like what she might be saying. She guides me before and after I mess up. She has never failed to support me and is always boosting my confidence, especially times when I am less confident. My mom is the BEST! And I hope and pray that I can be just as inspiring to others as she has been to me.
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