Walk down the sexual-health aisle of any pharmacy and you’ll instantly notice the latest crusade in the intimacy industry: helping men last longer and women climax quicker. A slew of desensitizing products promises to cool your man’s jets so he doesn’t pop off as soon as you start going at it. And right next to these are female-arousal formulas that claim to get you to the brink of pleasure faster than you can say “That’s the spot.”
While many of these products may be snake oil, the problem is real: The average man takes about four to 10 minutes to orgasm during intercourse, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Compare that with the roughly 13 minutes the average woman needs to get off during sex (if she can at all), and you’re left with plenty of unsatisfied couples.